by: Terje Brooks Ellingsen
If You have a habit hard to break it means that you're currently lacking control over a certain behavior or set of behaviors in a type of situation.
The first question that comes to my mind is: How do we really create a habit - bad or good?
A habit is not created the first time we do it.
The clue here is repetition; we create a habit by repeating it.
And the more we repeat it the more resistant it becomes.
The founders of NLP, Bandler and Grinder are using a concept called "streamlining".
They explain this concept as a natural process whereby our minds learn which aspects of a thought process is important and which is not.
Let me give an example:
When I was about 5 years old somebody offered to shake my hand for the first time in my life. I was very pleased because this nice woman was treating me like an adult. I looked at her outstretched hand and then, remembering what others did in this situation, clumsily lifted mine and moved it towards hers. I remember not getting the positioning quite right, and she compensated and smiled. Now, the next time I got a little better at shaking hands and soon I didn't even need to think about it.
When somebody offers you their hand to say hello, you don't think about it at all. It's automatic behaviour. Even if you do think about it, you can't help lifting your hand up.
This is what we call a habit.
Good habits are hardly mentioned - they are not important and not on the agenda.
It is the bad habits that cause trouble and it is these habits - the habits we want to get rid of - that means most for us.
It is self improvement that matters, make our habits better.
You can break a habit by deliberately practicing a new or different one.
Many of us blame our unconscious mind for our bad habits. But even the most enlightened and spiritual person has bad habits. So this seems to indicate that they are not only outside of their conscious control, but even outside of the control of the unconscious mind as well.
The fact is that your unconscious mind can break an old habit and learn a new one without your needing to know about it.
You can also break a habit by making it seem uncomfortable, like boredom for instance. Our minds are very keen on doing what feels comfortable and the same mechanism can be used for making a new and more functional habit.
But what about the good habits - there are some of them as well.
When
Michael Jordan was asked to miss the basket when throwing for a TV commercial, it took him around 20 attempts.
Even good habits can be difficult to break, but why would one want to break them?
About The Author
Terje Brooks Ellingsen is a writer and Sociologist who runs http://www.1st-self-improvement.net/. He writes about self help issues like general self improvement, see http://www.1st-self-improvement.net/index.htm and self esteem improvement, see http://www.1st-self-improvement.net/self_esteem_improvement.htm.
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Spring & Home Decorating - A Fresh New Look
Spring & Home Decorating - A Fresh New Look
by: Bonnie P Carrier
Open Windows ? Curtains fluttering from a warm breeze ? The air smells fresh and clean ? Buds on the trees are beginning to open ? Tiny flowers are popping up threw the ground ? Finally that little bird with the red breast is back
All of these can only mean one thing ?Spring? has arrived.
Those days of blustery storms and frosty drafts have come to an end.
With spring comes a renewed burst of energy. Having been shut inside for months we now want to get up, get going and do things.
This presents a marvelous opportunity for home decorating, a chance to give the inside of our homes a fresh clean look to match the emerging new look outside.
You now want to think light, bright and breezy, exactly like a beautiful spring day.
The following are a few ideas to help get you started.
Hang a wreath covered with pretty silk flowers on the front door. This...
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Spring Cleaning For Today's Mom
Spring Cleaning For Today's Mom
by: Amy Allen Clark
With spring comes all of the beauty of the changing season. We finally began to see our grass; we enjoy seeing the new buds on our trees, and the sweet smell of a good April shower. What also comes along is the dreaded ritual of spring cleaning. Maybe you went through this awful experience as a child. Your mother would be pulling all the linens, washing the drapes, deep cleaning every nook and cranny of your home and then collapse after a full day of cleaning. I don?t remember this as being a fun ritual for our family and have decided to try a different method of cleaning in our own home.
Spring cleaning ironically is not as necessary as it once was. Back in the olden days, spring cleaning was a much different concept then it is today. This cleaning was a necessary routine because of how they had to heat their homes and keep them lit. Using kerosene, wood, gas, oil, and candles caused the house...
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Spring Is Around The Corner - How is your Garden?
Spring Is Around The Corner - How is your Garden?
by: Anita Johnston
Spring is in my opinion the most wonderful time of year for the gardener. You can shake of that winter weariness and get ready for a new gardening season.
The most difficult part of spring gardening is trying to manage your impatience. Don?t start digging around too early. The soil must be dry enough to have it fall apart when you pick it up. When it still sticks together like glue that?s definitely not the case.
Early spring is the best time of year to change (parts of) your garden design. You can transplant existing shrubs and perennial plants before they begin to leaf out. This also is the time to prune your trees and shrubs. Cut back the remaining dead foliage from last season and remove dead, damaged or diseased branches of trees and shrubs.
And then flowers! That?s really what spring is about isn?t it! There are many that are suitable for cool spring...
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46 Clues Your Partner is Having an Affair
46 Clues Your Partner is Having an Affair
by: Dr. Robert Huizenga
Some of these signs of a cheating spouse are "tongue in cheek" while others are tell tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating husband or cheating wife. There is no copyright. Feel free to forward to those who might be interested. But please don't change anything.
Signs of a Cheating Spouse:
1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy.
2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)
3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.
5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.
6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous...
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ENJOYING YOUR SEASONS OF LIFE-Action Steps to Not Just Go, But GROW Through!
ENJOYING YOUR SEASONS OF LIFE-Action Steps to Not Just Go, But GROW Through!
by: Lynn Jarrett
We all go through ups and downs in our lives. I refer to them as our ?Seasons of Life.?
SUMMER-LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST!
How can you tell if you?re in a summer season?
1. You have lots of energy to tackle projects.
2. You enjoy life and see the positive in everything.
3. You have higher self-confidence.
4. There is more balance in your life.
5. You no longer allow the stress to get to you.
Sometimes you miss your summer moments because:
1. Your daily schedule is packed with too much activity.
2. Excessive worry about issues.
3. No life balance.
4. Little or no recognition or unaware of own needs.
5. Performance driven about every aspect of life.
SUMMER ACTION ITEM:
Look over the reasons why you miss summer moments.
Indicate the ones that...
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Introduction to Flower Bulbs - Summer and Spring-Flowering Bulb
Introduction to Flower Bulbs - Summer and Spring-Flowering Bulb
by: Kirk Gordon
Bulb flowers are popular in the Dutch culture (Netherlands), however, they are native to central Asia. Dahlias are said to be native to Mexico, Hippeastrum is from South America, Freesias and calla lilies are native to South Africa.
Although bulbs are not native to the Netherlands, the professional Dutch horticulturalists are the primary reason why bulbs are as popular as they are. They also get credit for being pioneers in breeding specialized bulbs with distinctive, vibrant shades of colors. The Netherlands cultivate some of the finest bulb flowers available. Because the Netherlands have an ideal climate for bulb production, they grow a lot of bulbs and are pretty good at it, too. Certain parts of the Netherlands is even known as the "bulb region."
In general, bulbs are categorized into two categories - the "spring-flowering bulbs" and the "summer-flowering...
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